How to message people on online dating websites
But obviously if she’s on the site too, you’re both in the same boat.
By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.
So, we can see that women are much more selective than men when it comes to responding to messages.
Not exactly Nobel-quality findings here, but it's definitely interesting to see the exact levels of response.
NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?
My buddy thinks you’re real and now we have a bet going. ” — Kristin, 26 The problem..the solution: Aside from the fact that this is a pathetic pickup line, it’s certainly never going to work. [pagebreak] DUMPED AND IN DENIALThe scenario: “I went on a few dates with a guy I met online, and I eventually decided we weren’t compatible, so I was honest with him.
Or if you feel compelled to bring it up, say something like, “I’m not interested in meeting anyone else online. Trust us, she’s getting a boatload of uninspiring messages like “Hi, how are you?
” and “You’re gorgeous, I’d love to chat.” If you want to get her attention, try doing something a bit more personal.
If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.