Handle dating 2 guys
But while most of our users are very comfortable communicating with multiple matches online, they sometimes get a bit more hesitant when emails turn into phone calls that start turning into dates, and they find themselves going for coffee with Mike on Tuesday, bowling with Bill on Thursday, and to a movie with Steve on Friday.
Is dating multiple people dishonest, sleazy, and flat-out wrong?
"Assume people are sleeping with other people unless they ask or say otherwise," she says. You're not hanging all your hopes on this coffee right now either? As P puts it, "Don't feel guilty about seeing more than one person, because you can make it weird, and don't overshare about more than one person." If they ask you what you're doing on Saturday, tell them you are "busy." If they ask what you're doing, tell them you're "meeting up with a friend." If they ask which friend, defer, or lie.
This might seem like a sort of defense mechanism against getting too involved, but I like to think of it more as a liberation tool—you assume that they're sleeping with other people, they assume that you're doing the same, and all of a sudden the pressure is off this date. And don't, under any circumstances, bring it up yourself. When you're on a date with someone, they deserve your undivided attention.
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I talked to people who are living/have lived the three-Internet-dates-a-week life, and distilled their advice into some basic rules of thumb.
And if you find yourself thinking about one person you're seeing even when you're with the others, well, that's a good problem to have.
It’s true on e Harmony that the more people you communicate with, the faster you will find the person who is right for you.
adies, there is absolutely no shame in diversifying your dating portfolio.
In fact, it’s highly encouraged to put your eggs into lots of different baskets while you’re a free agent, as long as you can do it without being a total dick.