Engaged after 2 months dating
I would argue that, say, over 35 years-old, people need less than 2 years pre-proposal because they know themselves better than do the young’uns.When actress Kaley Cuoco announced that she was engaged to tennis star Ryan Sweeting after three months of dating, she joined a list of other celebs who were quick to get engaged.This is lovely, but does nothing to test how reality will feel when the glow has worn off and the day-to-day business of working things out as a couple sets in. Can you disagree and find a route to working it out and still like each other?Are the things that you have come to see about your partner which annoy you tolerable enough and are they heavily outweighed by the things you like in them?•All marriages, even those that are happy in the long run, show declines over the first two years in marriage in the following categories: sex, overt displays of affection, and leisure activities spent together. But everything you read there, you could also have read here. My biggest takeaway is that if the courtship is smooth, the marriage will be as well.Please share your thoughts about any of the central premises of this piece.I’ve been getting into it recently with some readers who have a slightly different take on when people should get engaged. One reader on my Facebook page wrote: “When a man’s in love he wants to propose as soon as he can.” Needless to say, I disagree with that. If you expect your marriage to be otherwise, you’ve got a big surprise waiting for you.
•Early exiters (what Huston calls “Country Music Romances”) divorced very quickly, within two to seven years of marrying.That makes it difficult to tell what percentage of the reason for a divorce may be too short an engagement, but it sure doesn’t help. During the honeymoon phase of any relationship, often the entire first year, couples tend to find it pretty easy to agree with their partner on many things, even everything.The hazy glow of infatuation has a way of making everything they say and do seem more wonderful than it actually is.They have very long courtships and appeared to marry with the hope that it would “improve” the relationship, though they’re well aware that they have major problems.•Delayed-action divorces (“Hollywood Romance Group”) had highly romantic courtships, but their affection declined considerably over the first few years of marriage.