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Or someone to call "babe" every Sunday morning at brunch at The Smith. What makes New York equally amazing and horrible for dating is the sheer number of options. There are so many damn people you would think it’d be easier, but it’s not. Or did you not shave your legs/chest in an attempt to behave, but now you’re screwed because they’re hot and smart and you’re going home with them anyway?There is always potential for an out-of-the-park first date.You aren’t relegated to the movie theater at the local mall, and if you are going to see a movie you can go to places like Nitehawk and eat artisanal cheese while watching it. And you have to figure out how to get yourself there. Does waiting at the bar with a drink make you look totally chill, or like a raging alcoholic? Yes, New Yorkers also pass on prospective mates because they're too nice, needy, live in a neighborhood that’s inconvenient, or are just plain weird. You’re usually meeting at the bar/restaurant/coffee shop. What if it’s one of the eight months a year when it’s freezing or those other four when it’s unbearably humid?
And if your neighborhood happens to be more than three stops outside Manhattan? That guy who asks if your back is feeling okay after you have sex on the roof is not necessarily a gentleman, despite how sweet you think that gesture is.
Usually the best first dates start with a drink, maybe at a bar in the East Village, where you talk for hours and determine that you both share a love of dim sum and Chinese beer. Then, during the meal, you both discover that you both have stiff shoulders, so it’s off to a massage place on the Lower East Side for cheap massages.
Then maybe you go back to his or her place to play the game "everything but..." (This one might have actually happened.) That’s the beautiful part of New York dating.
But you don’t want to let too much time pass, either.
You’re usually golden if you start planning your second date on your first. Or you have a really kickass first date including, let’s say, a bar, dim sum, a massage, and a healthy game of "everything but..." and then six months go by and you’re still waiting for that promised phone call. Like putting up flyers of themselves or covering their faces in a paper bag and going to speed dating events. There’s too much possibility for something better right around the corner.