Dating an addict
The problems that typically plague standard relationships, from forgetting an anniversary to cheating, create an almost impenetrable barrier in the relationship.
Add in a drug-ridden past or present into the mix, and the relationship is not only stressful, but also very unpredictable.
In looking at the experiences of others, what we can say is that many who have formed romantic partnerships with former substance abusers have come to regret that decision immensely, while others have been able to establish satisfying permanent relationships with those who have successfully put their past addictions behind them.
So there really is no hard and fast rule here – but there are some things you should think about before getting more deeply involved with someone in recovery.
A major perk of dating someone with a checkered past is that they most likely won’t judge you for yours.
With good communication about this topic, the partner of someone in recovery can do a lot to keep the process on track – while protecting themselves at the same time.
While recovering addicts or alcoholics can make excellent companions, there is one principle that should be followed without exception – do not become involved with someone in recovery from substance abuse unless they have been clean and sober for at least one year.
All recovering addicts have certain triggers that could lead to relapse.
Before becoming involved with them, it is important to sit down and have a good long talk about what those triggers might be, based on their past experiences and on the insights they have gained during their counseling sessions and during their time in AA or NA.